"I Still Love Them, But They Get Dumber Every Day": 11 People Got Very, Very Candid About How They Handle Conversations With Their MAGA Family
Alexa Lisitza
Thu, October 23, 2025
Recently, we asked people in the BuzzFeed Community to share how they handle conversations with their MAGA family members.
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The responses ranged from frustrating to exceedingly honest. Here's what they said:
1. "I'm Hispanic and my father-in-law is a white MAGA male — who is also a veteran — who claims that he's OK with me because I'm 'one of the good ones.'"
"Before the election, I used to try giving him only facts, and he kept saying how I was trying to sell him a liberal agenda. One time, I tried bringing the immigration issue up, and he belittled me, saying things like, 'How can you think he will come for you? He's only going after the worst of the worst. I'm disappointed that you have all this knowledge and still make outrageous claims like that.' Then, everyone else got uncomfortable and walked away from the conversation. He followed up with a text telling me how talking about politics is taking away time from his family time. THEN, when T ultimately got elected, and he did go after people like me, I heard my father-in-law say that the ends justify the means. Long story short, you don't 'handle' it. Let them get their benefits cut and livelihoods get taken away until they can't blame the Dems anymore."
—greenwitch492
2. "I don’t. They abandoned me when I came out, and now that they’re losing their healthcare, they're looking for sympathy. Womp womp."
—sillymoon
3. "Rather than focusing on the political divide, I focus on issues that are common across all people at our economic level: wages, housing costs, healthcare costs, rising cost of living, and inequity between normal people and the billionaire class."
"My MIL is MAGA because she thinks that being pro 'hard work and responsibility' means that she has to be a republican. Her mind was blown when I said, 'I agree with you; I think people should work hard and be responsible for themselves.' I just add on that I also think that, as a society, we should help people when they stumble. That if we DO work hard and take responsibility for ourselves, we should be able to live a comfortable life. Not extravagant, not something for nothing, but that honest work should yield an honest wage. She agreed with ME. We solved nothing, but we took steps toward each other on common ground. I'll take my wins where I can get them."
—reneelynnripley
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4. "Unfriending and blocking them on all social media and having nothing to do with them in real life. There's enough B.S. in life, no need to include unnecessary B.S."
—keathome2010
5. "I want to keep the lines of communication open, but productively."
"If/when they start going off on tangents, clearly and firmly say, 'That’s not a conversation I’m going to have with you right now. If you want to get back to discussing X, I’m happy to engage.' Then hold the line. It keeps things productive and respectful, which also helps because I want to hold out hope that they will see reason someday."
—originalcan965
6. "Funny enough, my MAGA relatives don’t want to talk about politics anymore."
"During the first Trump term and then Biden, they brought up their love of Trump constantly. Now, after all his horrible policies —them getting layoff notices, the cutting of services, etc. — they’re not so enamored and suddenly don’t want to discuss it! I pray this dissatisfaction with the president spreads like wildfire."
—originalknight396
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7. "I usually walk away from the conversation. Almost all of my family members are Republicans, and it's hard to talk to them about what I believe."
"Most of the time, they don't want to talk to me, even though I'm only 13. I still can have my own beliefs and opinions.
One day, I was in my room. This was during the election, and my brother came in and said, 'Fuck you Democrats,' Like, bro chill😭😭😭! But what can I do? I'm not old enough. You expect me to vote for Republicans, no, when I'm old enough, I can do what I want, but I mostly support Democrats, so it's sometimes hard since I have no one to talk to about this stuff, and half my friends are Republicans, and my other half avoids the drama about which is better for our country. So I just avoid conversations like that."
—SabrinaCarpenterFan
8. "I don’t talk to them anymore. Easy peasy. Especially the woman who gave birth to me."
—PhillyInDC
9. "I hate it when anybody gets political 'cause it's always hyper negative."
"My sister and cousin are the WORST about it. I wouldn't mind if they actually came up with their own opinions, but they just spew MAGA/conservative soundbites from TikTok. At my confirmation dinner, I made the mistake of sitting next to them. They just discussed their 'views' the whole time, and proceeded to shit on every 'snowflake' family member.
My sister called both of my parents brainwashed, two people who don't use social media and only read non-biased news articles. Two people who are not registered with either party, whose political views have not changed since 1993. Yeah, guys, totally brainwashed. So honestly, I try to avoid them when they're together. I avoid all forms of political conversation with my sister. I still love them, but they get dumber every day."
—slylight675
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10. "With patience and boundaries. I try to listen without debating every point, focus on shared values instead of politics, and step away when it stops being respectful."
"You can’t change someone’s beliefs overnight — but you can choose peace over endless argument."
—glitterypumpkin715
11. And finally, "It's really difficult, especially since we live under the same roof."
"I'm nearly 36, and I help take care of my family, but I'm the only one in the household that isn't a MAGA. I've heard people who voted for someone other than Trump should have their heads examined. And today I was basically called a terrorist because I'm not MAGA. I've started to just remove myself from the uncomfortable conversations, and thank my lucky stars when I'm at work, away from what I feel to be a hostile environment."
—prorockstar686
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